Mend your broken heart -

Mend your
broken heart

I t's been months since your brakup and your heart's still in a million pieces? You're finding it difficult to eat (or stop eating), sleep, work or think about anything except "How could he/she leave... what's wrong with me?" If this pathetic picture nails you to a lovestick, there's a advice for checking out of Heartbreak Hotel.

Let it out, then let it go.

Vent, cry, tell your friends for the 15^th time how he/she worshiped the adorable curve of your upper lip. If you don't let your emmotions out, they'll fester inside, and so will the louse's memory. So allow yourself one last good wallow. Then stop. Need some affection? Get the substitute object to cuddle. A cute puppy can go a long way toward helping you forget a guy/gal who was a dog.

Retrain your heart.

You will truely forget your ex once you can literally see him in a new, hunk-free light. It's called creative visualisation -- imagining scenes that you want to happen. Close your eyes and remember negative images, like when he/she had food dribbling off his/her chin. Racked with rage at his/her callous behaviour? In your mind's eye (only in your mind's eye) make him/her walk the plank. That should harmlessly blast away those energy-sapping, venomous emotions.

Write a relationship profit-and-loss statement.

The end of romance provides a wonderful time to learn about yourself. Look at your assets. For example, the ability to really be there for someone in crunh. Examine the minuses -- perhaps you were too trusting of someone who hadn't earned it. The bottom line: Analyse what was right and wrong about your old relationship. It will help you forge a much stronger new one.

Form a Saturday night club.

Weekends are tough for newly singles. Start calling friends to make plans for the weekend. Have a standing Saturday night movie date.

Meet a fascinating woman\man.

Do the things you've been dying to try or that you'd put on hold. Enroll yourself in tha acting class, research a new career, take the trip.

Beware the rebound hurdle.

Just when you thought it was safe to go out with mascara on (no chances of tear streaks), wham! You're back in love. But try to see this new man/woman for who he/she is, not as a cure-all. It's like applying balm to be a chapped heart -- temporarily soothing, but you don't cure lovesickness by replacing the love object.

Close the door.

Don't fall into yo-yo love. Let it be over. If he/she keeps calling to say you should give it one more chance, or that he/she has someone new but wants to stay friends, don't bit. Cut him/her loose and celebrate the new, improved, I won't-settle-for-anything-less-than-a-great-guy/girl.

- By vinyas. courtesy BT.

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